Immunizing Children Against Defeat™

There is nothing more important in the life of a human being than to be equipped by their parents to be immune against defeat. Regardless of a child's difficulties and failures, they can learn that defeat means nothing to their self-worth or sense of personal power.

A book entitled “Immunizing Children Against Defeat” is forth-coming. It will have clear, simple steps to effect such an inoculation of your child.

School age children

School age children face a variety of difficulties. They and their parents need a host of skills to negotiate these sometimes-difficult years. Generally a child’s troubles are not of his or her origin. Troublesome behavior usually results from circumstances or situations the child faces in the context of his or her daily life.

By the time children are 8-12 years old, most of their basic sense of self-esteem is set, baring some significant transformational event. Also by this age a child’s sense of how to relate to the same and opposite sex is well established by the modeling presented in their family of origin, again baring some significant transformational event.

Adolescents

There is hardly a more troubling time than between puberty and early adulthood. Peer pressure, parental rules, sex, alcohol, drugs, grades, athletics, money, clothing and a host of other issues can turn these years into a tough time for child and parent.

For those children that can be coaxed into therapy, this can be a very productive time for coaching by a significant adult figure other than their parent. Without a growing, positive, personal relationship experience many of these children may be lost to several years of unproductiveness.

Counseling with children and/or parents can have a tremendous influence. Counseling can change the years of parenting from stressful and strained to easy and pleasurable.